Do not respect women!

Do not respect women! Such an eye catching title ? Isn’t it?  Read on.The article is in complete agreement with the title. So if you were expecting it to be a pathetic attempt at sarcasm, you will be disappointed. Respect Women. How many times have you read or heard this line in your daily life ? Most probably in Social media, Newspapers, online articles, comment sections etc. Have you paused to understand why is it more popular than its sibling : Respect Men. What? Respect Men ? Are you out of your mind ? I am not another FemiNazi posting a one sided rant about women issues and the problem’s they face because of Men. I will skip that discussion for some other day. Those issues exist for everyone of us. What bothers me about this whole  “Respect Women” philosophy is how this is being sold as the solution to all the problems Women face. A women got raped ?  Well respect women. ( Exactly, instead of teaching people that rape is actually lack of consent ). A women is being forced for dowry by her in laws. Well respect women. ( Instead of taking strict action against those who demand dowry ). A Women is being objectified by Media. Well , respect Women. ( Instead of accepting that a woman is capable of having natural sexual urges as well that makes her a normal human being). A Women does not get equal wages and job opportunities. Well, respect women. ( Instead of taking strict action against those who give biased treatment because of your gender ) And many other silly reasonings we see from people to support this “respect women” theory. Not single one of us bothered questioning the very existence of such statements. A simple google search of the word “Respect” results in admire (someone or something) deeply, as a result of their abilities, qualities, or achievements have due regard for (someone’s feelings, wishes, or rights). From the above meanings , we conclude that respect simply means giving regard to women’s feelings, wishes and her rights. The famous “Nirbhaya Rape Case”where an unofficial documentary was released by the BBC on the mentality of a rapist. “Koi izzatdaar ghar ki ladhki itni raat ko ghar se bahaar nahi nikalti”. Hence she does not deserve respect. Hence is it okay to rape her. ? Is it okay to rape women whom you do not respect ? This goes on to prove that how we tend to not use the literal meaning of the word ‘respect’ in the context of the Indian Society. How respect is supposed to be given to only those Women who devoid themselves of sex. So I ask you. Women who have multiple serial partners don’t deserve respect? “Aurat ghar ki izzat hoti hai”. Another popular saying in Indian Household that again associates women with respect and sex. This whole “respect women” philosophy looks like a defense to discourage her from having natural sexual relationships. This is directed towards men as well. Its like if you respect a girl then you are not supposed to have sexual feelings towards her. Why not ?  Why can’t guys respect a girl and still be sexually attracted towards her?  Why is she not treated as a human being that has natural desires like food, water and Sex just like any other person. You know why they don’t preach “Respect Men” on Social Media ? As a kid, I always used to wonder why my parents used to keep saying “respect women, respect girls”. I wondered why they didn’t say it about the other class; Men. “Respect Men” looks uncanny. Probably because the society can clearly dissociate respect and sex easily for men. “This taxi respects women. Mein mahilaon ki izzat karta hun” Why you need to respect them? Why can’t we treat them just like normal human beings ? This whole “Respect Women” backfires to women only. Think about it. Pause. So the next time you hear this phrase. Do understand the context in which it is used. DO NOT RESPECT WOMEN ( Instead learn to treat them like normal human beings with natural sexual urges just like any other person ).